My best friend and I are no longer friends. After what I went through last year, this is nothing. I don’t have time to fight for people who don’t want to be around or don’t want to put in any effort. It’s ending cordially but it still sucks that it’s ending at all.
We talk about “biblical families,” “biblical marriage,” “biblical economics,” “biblical politics,” “biblical values,” “biblical stewardship,” “biblical voting,” “biblical manhood,” “biblical womanhood,” even “biblical dating” to create the impression that the Bible has just one thing to say on each of these topics - that it offers a single prescriptive formula for how people of faith ought to respond to them.
But the Bible is not a position paper. The Bible is an ancient collection of letters, laws, poetry, proverbs, histories, prophecies, philosophy and stories spanning multiple genres and assembled over thousands of years in cultures very different from our own.
What’s the point of opening up to someone and being 100% real if, when you doing that, they start running in the other direction? Outside of your family are there actually people you can be 100% honest with? I’m starting to think that the answer to that question is no. People don’t want the truth. They want sugar-coated half-truths or lies. They want the smile. The laugh. They want you to praise them and tell them how great you are. They want to talk shit about people to you but hope/demand you never say anything negative about them because that’s honesty. Everyone has negative aspects and as much as they claim to want honesty, they don’t actually want to hear it. Does this look good on me? Is this a good design? My teacher should’ve liked this, right? I'm the best right? I don’t need to change anything, right?
At your own risk answer honestly - that’s how you lose friends.
THIS IS ACTUALLY WHAT I DO TO JARED AND I JUST DIED. THIS IS GREAT.
What I mean:You are one of the best friends I've ever had. The level on which we connect baffles me. I'm so so happy that I can share my interests, secrets, guilt, faults, joys, and insecurities with you in confidence and receive encouragement to improve and keep being better, and I'm comfortable with the ease with which I can reciprocate those feelings and that support to you as well. We make a great team and I'm really fortunate to have you in my life.
“Do not fall in love with people like me
we will take you to
museums and parks
and kiss you in every beautiful
place so that you can
never go back to them
without tasting us
like blood in your mouth.”—Gabriel Gadfly (via perfect)